 In all matters of making love to a woman, it's especially effective to tease and tantalize her, allowing her arousal to build. Men generally get aroused with little or no help but it usually takes a lot more for a woman. When I was teaching my workshops on sexuality I always asked the women what advice they’d like me to pass along to the men. Invariably, they would all say, “Tell them to slow down.” And after you think you’ve slowed down, meaning how long you take moving from one thing to another, slow down some more. Then ask if you’re taking the time she’d like. You’d be surprised how much more they want
Before giving a woman oral pleasure always be sure you have a really close shave. Whiskers on her clitoris can cause her to lose her arousal, just like teeth on your penis.
Some women are shy about allowing you to pleasure them in this way. They worry that they might not smell good. To help with this concern only offer to pleasure you when you know she’s freshly showered. Or tell her you don’t want her to be concerned, that you want her to be fully relaxed and that you want to offer her a special treat. Then wet a wash cloth with fairly warm water to freshen her up. Be sure and tell her you’re doing this for her pleasure, that you don’t need it. If she’ll relax and allow herself to enjoy it, the warm cloth will feel very good.
Another way to make bathing a part of the entire experience is to shower together, soap up your hand, then wash her, being sure to go inside the folds of her labia (see photo below) but not into her vagina. The soap would cause problems for her. After she’s rinsed off, get on your knees and pleasure her with your tongue, giving her something to look forward to. Dry her and guide her to the bed, or wherever you intend to seduce her.
Before you go anywhere near her genitals most women really need lots of passionate kisses. Kissing is the most intimate thing two people can do because it's not just body parts and sensations but a connection of souls. Women enjoy making love the most when that connection is felt. By the way, this goes for any kind of lovemaking. It’s an important element of slowing down.
After kissing a while, move to her neck and very slowly, continue working your way down, kissing her breasts, her belly, the inside of her thighs, the back of her knees, the inside of her lower legs, her feet... even suck and lick her toes. Remember to take your time, that you're teasing her to build up her arousal and the feelings of wanting you.
Now, when you get to her...
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