2) I am respectful of others.
Do you speak to others in a respectful manner? Are you considerate of others feelings? In past relationships did you communicate with your partner as a respected equal and someone you admired? Or were you condescending, belittling or cruel?

3) I am good at nurturing myself.
Do you take the time to be good to yourself? Do you allow yourself the simple pleasures that make you feel good? Do you eat well, get enough sleep, exercise regularly? Do you take time to relax? Do you nourish your mind? Or are you a workaholic, stressed, rushed and unable to stop and smell the roses?

4) I am playful.
Are you able to let your childish spirit come out and romp? Do you look for opportunities to dance and even be a little silly? Do you make time to be with friends? When you were in a relationship did you make a point to play and flirt with your partner, making sure that they didn't take life too seriously, making time for vacations, time with friends, time to dance and celebrate? Or are you too serious or too self-conscious to truly let go?

5) I go out of my way to compliment others.
Do you enjoy telling others that they look good, that they did a job well, that they're smart or capable? When you were in a relationship did you look for opportunities to let your partner know you found them attractive, capable and smart? Or were you oblivious or insensitive for their need to be noticed?

6) I'm good at making others feel special.
Do you let others know what's special about them? When you were in a relationship were you considerate of what your partner's soul needed from you? Or were you too busy with life to take the time to acknowledge the little things that mattered to your partner?

7) I go out of my way to let the people I care about know they are important to me.
Do you tell your family and friends that they matter to you? Do you share the reasons why? When you were in a relationship did you let your partner know, on a regular basis, how they made your life better? Or were you too focused on your job, the children or your to-do list to give your partner this little boost of acknowledgement?

8) I enjoy doing thoughtful things for others.
Do you look for ways to put a smile on the face of your family and friends? When you were in a relationship did you get pleasure out of noticing what they liked and enjoyed and making those things happen? Or were you oblivious to what little things put a smile on their face?

9) I am generous with my money.
Do you enjoy spending money on the people you care about? Do you enjoy spending money on yourself? When you were in a relationship did you enjoy putting a smile on your partner's face with special purchases, occasional surprises and even the day-to-day expenses of life? Or do you hoard money, resent spending on others, or are you oblivious of how much pleasure you can get out of being generous?

10) I am generous with my time.
Do you like taking time to be with family and friends? Do you offer to work on projects that will benefit others? When you were in a relationship did you enjoy spending time with your partner and doing things with and for them? Or are you resentful of having to take time away from what needs to get done or from your activities?

11) I am verbally appreciative.
Do you think to let others know they did a good job? Do you thank people for being kind or thoughtful? Do you let your family and friends know that you are happy they are in your life? When you were in a relationship did you make a point to appreciate your partner for the things they did for you, for how good they were at their job, for how creative they were, for how thoughtful and considerate and loving they were? Or do you focus on the things you resent or don't like about them?

12) I practice gratitude.
Do you regularly make note of what you are grateful for? Do you write a list of what you're grateful for? Do you let God (whatever God is to you) know how grateful you are for the things you have and even for simply being alive? Or are you unaware of how being grateful colors everything in brighter shades, making your spirit lighter and a bounce in your step?

13) I express with my words how much I care for others.
Do you tell your family and friends that you love them, that they matter to you, that they are important to you? Do you do so on a regular basis? Do you occasionally, out of the blue, pick up the phone and express your heartfelt affection for them? When you were in a relationship, did you tell you partner, on a regular basis, that you loved them, that you thought they were wonderful, that you were lucky to have them in your life, that your life would not be quite a good without them? Or are you uncomfortable with your words of love, or assume "they should know", or simply don't think to tell them how you feel?

14) I express with my actions how much I care for others.
Do you give warm, heart-felt hugs to your family and friends? Do you pick up the phone to connect with the people who are important to you? Do you give presents? Are you thoughtful? Do you enjoy making the people around you happy? When you were in a relationship did you give lots of physical affection, hugs, hand holding, touching, kisses on the back of the neck? Or are you too caught up in your work, your responsibilities or your favorite activities to take the time to show your love? Or are you maybe uncomfortable showing any kind of love and caring? Or are you simply unconscius and obvlious that showing your love is a good idea?

15) I have a positive, happy attitude.
Do you smile easily, are you playful with others, do you feel like life is good and only gets better? Are people happy to have you around? When you were in a relationship were you a joy to have around, did you do your best to buoy the spirits of your partner, trying to make life as good as it could possibly be? Or are you a bit of a sour puss, negative, focusing on what's wrong instead of what's right?

16) I communicate with clarity, confidence and compassion.
Do you make a point to speak to others with forethought, so that your communications are received in the way you intend? Do you pay attention to how others respond to what you say? When you were in a relationship did you put in the effort it took to be sure that what you were trying to say is what they heard? Or do you ramble on, focused on what you are saying, forgetting that communication is always a two-way interaction?

17) I listen with heartfelt respect.
Do you listen closely to what others are saying to you, letting them know you care about what they are communicating? Do you make eye-contact, not looking around for someone more interesting to talk to? When you were in a relationship did you repeat back to them what you heard, making sure they communicated to you what they wanted to, and giving them the comfort of knowing you cared enough to want to know what they were saying? Or do you look for your first opportunity to jump in and say what you want to say, ignoring what the other person was trying to communicate to you? Or do you listen with half an ear, pretending to pay attention? Or do you look around, paying more attention to what's going on around you?

18) My sexual energy is flowing.
Do you allow yourself the enjoyment of being a sexual being, even when you do not have a partner? Do you enjoy the sensual pleasures of food, beautiful things, colors, smells, even the feel of a warm breeze on your skin? Do you allow life to be enjoyed rather than endured? When you were in a relationship did you go out of your way to be sexually playful and erotically enthused to share your sexuality with your partner? Or have you shut yourself off from feeling alive and sexy, from wanting to enjoy the pleasures of two lovers enjoying each other with delight and abandon?

19) I celebrate my aliveness.
Do you dance naked in your living room, grateful to be alive (or the equivalent), are you in awe of the universe, life, and your God-given gift of being a human, with your ability to feel your emotions, all of them, to the depths of your being? When you were in a relationship did you use the love you shared to honor the gift of your humanness, to squeeze everything possible out of the life you shared? Or do you live each day blind to the fantastic diversity of life that swirls around you, your nose too close to the grindstone to see what's really worthwhile, forgetting to notice that you are a magnificent gift to this planet?

20) I feed my mind.
Do you regularly read things that enhance your level of knowledge and wisdom? Do you go out of your way to learn new things? Do you look for that which will inspire you? Do you express your creativity? When you were in a relationship did you encourage each other to continue to learn new things, then share them with each other, staying interesting and interested? Or do you ignore learning, except in your field of work, instead, watching TV or doing the same things you always do, never seeking that which is new.

21) I am always growing, working toward becoming the best person I can possibly be.
Do you look at life's experiences, especially the uncomfortable or painful ones, as opportunities to grow? Do you read books, take workshops and go out of your way to understand yourself so that you can be a happier, more effective person? Do you take full responsibility for your outcome, no matter what? When you were in a relationship were you in the habit of seeing both sides of the dance, how everything that happened between you was partly your doing and partly theirs? Did you understand that relationship, more than anything else in life, is the greatest challenge and therefore, the greatest opportunity to learn and grow? Or do you tend to blame others for what's going on for you, assuming they are the cause of your reactions? Or are you unaware that life is about constantly evolving into the best version of yourself that you can imagine, and with each step forward, your capacity to be happy, to love and be loved, grows?